My husband and I have had a lot of hard conversations lately. We have a son getting ready to go into 4th grade next year. It seems like that is a big step for him so we are working to get him prepared. Our son, Mr. L, has also had some rough conversations with us lately. The one that stands out to me the most is that he feels different from everyone else in his world.
These days different is praised especially when it comes to being the real you. However, in a school setting different = defective. I HATE THAT! I hate that in his precious mind that he feels defective.
Let me remind you of some ways he is different. He is smart, yet creative. He’s a leader who is determined. He is a sensitive feeler. He is a gifted planner. He is an extrovert who loves to engage other people.
He is a mix of traits and characteristics so wonderful I can’t imagine how they are all contained in one body.
With all these strengths, we know there are also weaknesses in ourselves as well. These weaknesses are effecting his school work and learning. So we must stand beside him and work to find the proper solution so that he can be the best he can be.
To a boy who already feels different we have to very carefully explain WHY we are going to be actively working to help him in areas that are taking over his learning at school and interaction with his teacher. We thought through the words ever so carefully.
Here’s what we finally came up with:
We are looking to find just the right shade of each color that makes up the masterpiece that is Mr. L. Each time we need to find a newer, better shade it is because it will only enhance the picture being created.
We want him to know that he is loved and who he is may be different, but it’s not defective. If you could just see the picture I see being painted by his life you would know how amazing he truly is.
So paint your picture. Take a moment to sit back and evaluate your color choice. Is that the best shade? Could it us a little more of one color or the next?