I remember watching a Veggie Tales video about Gideon when my kids were younger and thinking how much faith it would take for George Mueller to trust God to provide everything. I mean, everything! At that time I was still living under a lot of ick (read condemnation!) and thought I was a lesser Christian because I could never live with that kind of faith! A few days ago I was thinking of that story again. Perhaps it was because we were living that kind of faith out on a VERY small scale…and God has been very faithful, but that’s not the reason I write this.
My concern is that we have allowed other people’s expectations and condemnation (real or not real!) to dominate our lives. What words have people spoken to you or over you (saying you are this way or that) that have SHAPED who you are today. Have they brought God’s truth into your life or sucked out whatever truth you had in you? Has what they said changed the way you hear and see yourself?
Who is the ultimate authority in our life? If we make God the one in charge, I can guarantee you that He does NOT condemn us. He will correct our behaviors and even guide us to the proper path, but He does it in such a kind and loving way. He has expectations for you that are not outside your reach, especially when you are listening to Him and letting Him take the lead.
When people start speaking into your life, ask yourself if what they are saying is hurting or helping, but more importantly ask yourself if it is true. I am constantly asking myself if what I’m thinking or hearing is a lie (and perhaps going to hurt me) or if it’s God’s truth about who and what He is asking of me. Many times I go back to the Bible and test what I’m hearing. I also journal, so I’ll go back and see if what I’m hearing lines up with what I’ve come to see in my past.
What are some lies that you’ve believed that need to be stopped? Once you get rid of that lie, what is the truth in that situation? It’s not enough to simply get rid of the lie, you must replace it with truth or the lie will try to weasel it’s way back into your life. Find the truth.
I recently went on a family trip to Texas with my entire side of the family. After months of feeling like my family had been working REALLY hard at life, I was SO ready for a relaxing vacation. Even before we left for vacation I felt God telling me that I would need to set the tone for the week.
I knew that there would a meeting that, if we weren’t careful, could cause hurt feelings or frustrations. Add to that the 4 different families represented all living in a room who lived life and liked to vacation a bit different than one another…well, there was just a lot of potential for emotions to run a little hot. So I found some GREAT quotes to print off and then placed them in each room.
Now, I could have gone into the vacation all defensive and ready to fight when someone got upset. But really, is that any way to live? Not at all! Many of us have lived our lives this way for years. I wonderful how much frustration and anger we have let come in our hearts that really didn’t need to be there at all.
All of us have the opportunity to set a positive tone in our lives. Perhaps it’s just one area that needs help or the whole thing! Each of us can lead the way somehow…a look, a smile, a great word, or a kind response. Really the options are limitless! Even in the hardest times, we can find a way to set the tone.
As we prepare for a new day tomorrow, what is something you can do to set the tone for those around you? Even if you start with just one thing, what would it be?
Last night the 4 of us had a fun night out with friends. We rolled into our driveway around 12:30am. (Side note: I was super surprised that 50% of the houses we passed had someone still awake inside.) Now if you know me, you may that was a late night for me. I’m a solid 10:30pm-6:30am lady. So it was of no surprise this morning when I woke up at 6:30am. Even my crazy boys were awake!
This is a habit I created a couple years after getting married. I spent the first 6-12 months of our marriage sleeping ALL the time. Honestly if I wasn’t working I was watching ER or sleeping. After college I was absolutely wrecked. The last semester I was taking 21 credits, doing a senior project, working 3 jobs, and planning a wedding. It was nuts. So I give myself a little grace for that period of time. HOWEVER, I know that I could have done so much more with my time. I had such an opportunity to start my married adult life on the right foot, but I had no idea how to get there!
I came to realize that if I wanted things to change, I had to change my habits. That’s where my strict bedtime came in. It’s actually a source of many jokes in our house but I’m a better person and a better mom if I just do this.
The truth is there are many more habits I need to put into place to be successful and reach my goals. I’m working right now on writing out my big goals so that I can create habits that will drive me to achieve them.
So…what are some habits you do that are helping you reach the goals and dreams you have for your life? What are some habits you need to start doing to help you move forward?
Some of Mr. L’s best friends at school are girls. Do you ladies remember 2nd and 3rd grade? I specifically remember ditching my best friend since Kindergarten to be friends with the popular girls when I was in 3rd grade. That was a waste of a perfectly good, healthy friendship. Young girls are full of drama. One day we’re friends and the next you can’t even talk to each other anymore. It’s a roller coaster of emotions.
I honestly didn’t see this whole drama thing coming our way. Yes, I’m a bit naive. You see, Mr. L has a lot of girl friends. He’s been having problems for the last week at school with his friends but yesterday was the big kicker for Mr. L. He was cross country skiing at school (which he does not like…snow, cold, physical activity) and he was struggling a bit. He called out to one of his girl friends asking them for help. She look right at him and then proceeded to turn around and head off without him. He literally laid face down in the snow and started crying. His heart was broken. How could his friend simply turn and ski away from him when he needed help? You see, everything matters to this kid. People matter. Their actions matter.
His teacher came to find out what was going on after a group of students were circling around him. She had the other students leave so they could have a conversation about what was going on (have I mentioned I really appreciate her?). He said he had a secret that he feels like nothing and not important. Those are the same words he told me on Monday last week.
Over the last week, he’s spent a lot of time sad about the way others at school were treating him. I suggested a few tips on being a good friend for him to try. I suggested that if his friends still didn’t want to play with him that he should be on the look out for other friends that would be a good fit for him. I’m sure this is the first of many times we will deal with friend issues.
So LOVE with all your heart Mr. L. It’s worth all the bumps you will encounter on the road of life because yes, everything (and everyone) does matter.